My Life is Short Challenge

How my Life is Short Challenge started

I wrote a blog post back in April 2016 about how I was going to do 62 challenges in 62 months to distract myself from all the legal drama that was stretching out after my mother’s tragic death in October 2015.  In just over five years, I wanted to achieve the many goals, trips and personal challenges that I’d short-listed as my ultimate bucket list.

It wasn’t easy to choose the final list, even back then – I could have filled it twice over with places I wanted to visit, skills I wanted to learn or materialistic things I thought I wanted to own.  However, when it came down to it, the original final list was quite reflective of me – at the time.  I was a ‘soft’ adventurer, rather than hard-core (yet still taking me out of my comfort zone) and I love the natural and historic world, rather than festivities and lots of people (unless it’s a rugby tournament).  I like to spark my imagination, but I also want to help educate the world – particularly under-privileged girls.

The challenges also reflected many of my childhood interests and aspirations – places in my favourite books, becoming a teacher, using the languages I learned at school and continuing to write fiction.  I’ve always strived to achieve, so there are some ultimate dreams of ‘best-seller’ and ‘award-winning’. Some of the challenges involved glitz and glamour , and some involve camping rough, donning a hammer and quite possibly shovelling animal manure (none of these things I do very often as an adult – apart from DIY).

Then there was new personal challenges have come to the forefront of my mind – helping people overcome the loss of loved ones, livelihoods and their homes, coping with sudden tragedy, and finally, finishing off a few of the trips that my Mum had planned to do in the coming few years.

The original 62 challenges can be read here.

What happened?

Life happened. Or more specifically, not the life I had intended.  I spent the first 8 months of the challenge (April – November 2016) striving ahead and achieving several challenges.  The pace then began to slow after December 2016 as the legal side of my mother’s death case kept being stretched.  My mental health really started to deteriorate, and the effects of PTSD, particularly feelings of anger and victimisation, began to take hold.

2017, while it had a few highlights around my 40th birthday in April/May, was a bad year.  As much as I tried to get back on track, achieve my goals, and be positive, it felt like my life was on someone else’s timeline.  I had no control over certain things, and we had the worst timing on so many things – on my 40th birthday, the Prosecutors sent an update that wasn’t great for my mood, and while my sister was in labour with her second child, several members of the family were at court for another hearing (that then got postponed).  I’ve written a much longer post about this timeframe, which you can read here.

By the time I started to improve my mental health, it was late 2019, and by my original timeline, I should have been 45 months into my 62 months.  I made the decision to reboot the Life is Short Challenge, deducting the completed 9 months and restart the clock for the final 53 months from January 2020.  I also re-evaluated the list, and made some changes that reflected where I was in my life 4 years on.

And then 2020...

2020 (and 2021 and even into 2022) – the years that everyone wish hadn’t happened.  Considering how many of my challenges were travel orientated, the pandemic definitely put a scupper on plans.  With a positive attitude, I thought I could still focus on other challenges and still make progress, but I ended up changing jobs at the beginning of the pandemic and spent the next few years working all hours.

So, my official reboot date became February 2023.

And so without further ado, here are the new overall categories.  The individual challenges are also detailed on linked pages.  If you are interested in helping me achieve a challenge, reach out here.

The 62 Challenges

CHALLENGES TO CHANGE THE WORLD

in progress

Challenge 1

Raise one million pounds
Raise one million pounds (or currency equivalent) for charity.

in progress

Challenge 2

Victim's rights
Ensure road tragedy victim’s families & loved ones have access to funding for counselling support.

in progress

Challenge 3

1000 hashtags
Achieve at least 1000 re-tweets or hashtag mentions in a fundraising campaign day.

achieved

Challenge 4

Changes in email marketing
Changes in email marketing to help after bereavement on occasions like Mother’s & Father’s Day.

to do

Challenge 5

Centre for unemployed/homeless people
Set up/build a centre for creativity and business for unemployed/homeless people.

achieved

Challenge 6

Rebuild a Nepalese school
Help rebuild a school and health centre in Nepal (linked to Challenge 38).

achieved

Challenge 7

Girlguiding badges
Help a Girlguiding group get their badges.

to do

Challenge 8

Teaching children abroad
Teaching children on creativity & writing in at least one country abroad.

PERSONAL GOAL CHALLENGES

in progress

Challenge 9

Organised & de-cluttered my home
Organising and de-cluttering my current flat after a period of hoarding during mental health challenges.

in progress

Challenge 10

Launch inspoverse business
Become an online entrepreneur by expanding my coaching business into inspoverse – a diverse online business.

in progress

Challenge 11

Complete courses & learning
Complete the many online courses that I’ve purchased in the past few years but haven’t had time to do fully.

to do

Challenge 12

Attend Date with Destiny
Attend, in person, the Tony Robbins ‘Date with Destiny’ event (usually in the US).

in progress

Challenge 13

Manage/reverse my lipodema
Take control of my health condition through healthy eating, exercise and surgery.

in progress

Challenge 14

Capture & document moments
Appreciate the little things in life through sharing posts daily

in progress

Challenge 15

Journalling
Take the time for self-care and writing by adopting a daily creative journalling habit.

in progress

Challenge 16

Mental Health recovery
Focus on my mental health and recover from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

in progress

Challenge 17

Imposter Syndrome & Perfectionalism
Overcome Imposter Syndrome to achieve my goals, and learn how to use my perfectionalism tendencies productively.

UPSKILLING CHALLENGES

to do

Challenge 18

Learn to surf
Finally learn to surf properly (e.g. stand-up) in North Cornwall

to do

Challenge 19

Learn to sew
Finally learn to sew – even if just cushions (or just one cushion).

achieved

Challenge 20

Contouring the face
Learn to master the art of contouring my face (mostly to look younger).

to do

Challenge 21

Perfect my tennis serve
More learn to actually serve properly (overhead, rather than bounce) than just perfect it!

to do

Challenge 22

Train a border collie
In preparation for owning another border collie (see Challenge 37), learn to train the breed.

BIG LIFE GOAL CHALLENGES

in progress

Challenge 23

Best-selling fiction author
Write and publish a fiction novel that reaches a best-seller list (or re-release my debut novel).

to do

Challenge 24

Award-winning screenwriter
Write an award-winning original screenplay.

to do

Challenge 25

Award-winning children's author
Write an award-winning children’s book.

to do

Challenge 26

Film/TV adaptation of my novel
Have one of my novels adapted for film or television.

to do

Challenge 27

Meet my childhood inspiration
Meet my childhood inspiration, Sir David Attenborough, in person

to do

Challenge 28

Watch my niece perform a duet
Watch my niece perform a duet with a famous singer on stage.

to do

Challenge 29

Dream home
Design & project manage the build/renovation of my dream home in the countryside.

to do

Challenge 30

Soulmate
Find (and marry) my soulmate.

to do

Challenge 31

Stephanie Allin wedding dress
Wear a Stephanie Allin wedding dress (preferably the style my late Mum saw a picture of in 2014)

in progress

Challenge 32

Clear debt/financial freedom
Clear all debts that I have, including mortgage, and have the financial freedom to live life without anxiety.

to do

Challenge 33

Positive Psychology Masters
Study, and achieve, a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania.

to do

Challenge 34

Meet a member of the Royal Family
Like my mother met Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, I’d like to meet a member of the Royal Family.

to do

Challenge 35

Family education
Provide the means for my family members (nieces/nephews) to have a good education.

to do

Challenge 36

Own a car
Own a car (Range Rover or Defender) – although I love my current Peugeot 3008 GT Premium.

to do

Challenge 37

Have a dog & a cat (or two)
Become a pet owner again – with at least one dog and one cat, and maybe a few donkeys, chickens, ducks and more

TRAVEL CHALLENGES

achieved

Challenge 38

Everest Base Camp trek
Trek to Everest Base Camp and receive sponsorship to rebuild a Nepalese school destroyed by the 2015 earthquake.

to do

Challenge 39

Trekking the Inca Trail
Trek the Inca Trail to get to Machu Picchu.

to do

Challenge 40

Great Wall of China Trek
Trek the Great Wall of China (long-ish trek, not a couple of hours walk).

to do

Challenge 41

Sail the fjords of Norway
Sail the fjords of Norway on a (small) cruise boat, with plenty of stops and walks.

in progress

Challenge 42

UK Bucket List Destinations
Using the travel book ‘UK Bucket List’, visit all the locations and do all the activities

to do

Challenge 43

Scottish Highlands & Islands
Tour the Scottish Highlands and Islands by car (& ferry).

to do

Challenge 44

Tasmania driving tour
Drive around the state of Tasmania (Australia) to visit historic sites, National Parks and eat cheese.

to do

Challenge 45

Rugby World Cup 2023
Hopefully attend at least one game – maybe! (Last RWC I didn’t get anything in the ticket ballot)

to do

Challenge 46

Carmen (the opera)
See the opera Carmen in Prague at the State Opera House.

to do

Challenge 47

Colosseum in Rome
Follow in the footsteps of Gladiator at the Colosseum in Rome.

achieved

Challenge 48

First Class upgrade
Be upgraded to First Class on a flight somewhere.

to do

Challenge 49

Hamptons clam-bake
Join a clam-bake in the Hamptons, like was featured in my debut novel

to do

Challenge 50

Owl rescue
Spend a day handling owls at a rescue centre.

to do

Challenge 51

Sri Lanka & the Maldives
Interact with elephants in Sri-Lanka and dive in the Maldives.

to do

Challenge 52

Serengeti migration
Witness the Serengeti migration and maybe trek Mt. Kilimanjaro if the timing is right (and my fitness improves).

to do

Challenge 53

Turtle conservation
Spend some time at a turtle conservation project in Costa Rica

to do

Challenge 54

Yellowstone National Park
Take a photography wildlife tour of Yellowstone National Park to see wolves and bears.

to do

Challenge 55

Dorset 'Famous Five' adventure
Go on a ‘Famous Five’ style adventure in Dorset complete with camping/shepherd’s hut, ginger pop and coastal walks.

to do

Challenge 56

Anne of Green Gables' Canada
Follow the autumnal fall colours of the East Coast of Canada with an Anne of Green Gables locations tour.

to do

Challenge 57

Transylvania walk
Search for Dracula on a walking trip through Transylvania.

to do

Challenge 58

Cherry Blossoms in Japan
Stand under the cherry blossom trees in Japan during peak season.

to do

Challenge 59

Angkor Wat
Pretend I’m Lara Croft at Angkor Wat in Cambodia (more studying the ruins, not destroying them).

to do

Challenge 60

Alaskan cruise
Cruising out from Anchorage on an Alaskan cruise to spot wildlife.

to do

Challenge 61

Lapland Northern Lights
Dog-sledding adventure in Lapland to chase the Northern Lights, see Santa and enjoy the crisp snow.

to do

Challenge 62

Arabian Desert Camp
Take a camel ride into the Arabian Desert and camp overnight.
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